Ideas to get my girlfriend to wear a watch?

[toony]

Hi,

I have a new girlfriend who is lovely, but doesn't wear a watch. I've brought up an innocent conversation with her before and she just said that any watch she gets as a gift she just gives away. With her consent I have been through a lot of her pictures and not once has she worn a watch.

The other day I was going through her jewellery box (again, with consent!) and noticed a large pink strap watch. It's only about 25 pounds in value or something but hey, it's a watch! Since then though I've made a couple of comments about it and she just isn't interested. It's weird, like I would only even want her to wear it once to see what it looked like but she just idnt bothered.

What would you guys do. I haven't told her about my fetish cos I think it will be difficult, but the amount of times I've mentioned watches in the past two months (considering I don't even wear one) might make her think in a bit odd. Typical though, in all my relationships I have never once found a girl that wears a watch!

[jacko]

Just accept it and enjoy your fetish some other way. Forcing it won't do any of you any good, my friend.

[Cradlis]

I think the same way as jacko, forcing her will do you no good.

Hhmm, I know it's not really helping, but can we have a picture of this pink strapped watch? It's kinda one of my favorite color for watches.

[harleyman]

what if you bought her one as a gift and made a big deal out of giving it to her because she is special - maybe then she would wear it.

[toony]

What I'll say is I haven't really forced it on her. Just mentioned the watch a few times with passing comments (like she is low on money cos of recently moving house, the watch was something I mentioned selling if she wasn't going to wear it and her answer made it pretty clear that she wouldn't be wearing it). Makes me almost consider telling her my fetish (though maybe not calling it one) but i wouldn't want her to wear one just cos I want her to if it made her uncomfortable.

I know that it was a Christmas gift one year but I dunno who off, but I think if I bought her one she would be suspicious. Still, there has to be a way if maybe telling her without it sounding weird. I mean it's a harmless fetish but also one rare enough for people to find odd!

[jacko]

I've talked several times about how I'm all for being open about your fetish, especially "harmless" ones like ours, and I've been fortunate to have been in relationships with girls who didn't mind wearing watches. But I do have other fetishes aswell, and I haven't been equally succesful in sharing these with any of them. You said it yourself; you wouldn't want her to wear (a watch) just cos you want her to, if it made her uncomfortable. And that's all there is to it, really.
Look at it from her side, and put yourself in her place: if she came to you about something she wanted you to wear, and you really didn't want to, how would that make you feel?

We are all different, and we just have to accept that. Just like I have to accept that my girlfriend don't want to put on a naughty latex dress for me in bed, you have to accept that your girlfriend don't want to wear a watch. Lucky for us, we have other means to enjoy our fetishes (watching pictures, websites, participating on forums etc). My girlfriend knows about most of mine, and don't mind me having them, as long as it doesn't involve her. That works for both of us.

If you feel you can be open about discussing sexual preferences (including fetishes) with your girlfriend, by all means, go ahead and tell her about yours. But you have to be ready for dissapointment and accept it.

[toony]

Good point, I've not gone out with her long so I have to wait for the right moment to be open about fetishes. I have had a previous girlfriend who had a hat fetish and I had no problem with that but I was still reluctant to tell her about mine!

[rightwrist]

I wouldn't try to push her either. Allthough it can be hard sometimes, better focus on the good part of your relationship, try to love eachother more and bonden more with eachother. If you can do that and you love eachother after a while, it would be much easier (less hard?) to start about the fetish.

[finder]

I don't mean to be crude but, if you are having a fetish, would you even consider a long term relationship with someone who does'nt share or at least accept your fetish? I would'nt..

[jacko]

I don't mean to be crude but, if you are having a fetish, would you even consider a long term relationship with someone who does'nt share or at least accept your fetish? I would'nt..

Whoa... that's extremely narrow-minded IMO It's like having a fetish for big tits and breaking up an otherwise good relationship because she doesn't want a boob-job! And we're simply talking about a fetish for watches.
Besides, who says she can't accept his fetish (if he told her about it, that is).

[RedRanga]

Toony, I don't have an answer for your dilemma, but I share your pain! Today I had lunch at a cafe; at the table right next to me was a beautiful dark-skinned girl with the sort of wrists that I fantasise about: tiny, tiny little things, about the size of a (part used) tube of toothpaste....but no watch! All I could think of was how much I would like to see a big 50mm steel bracelet watch, far too big and loose.... and how much that would turn me on! Sadly, those little wrists were bereft and forlorn! What a waste...

How would I feel if my GF had tiny little wrists like that, and wasn't into watches? Like you, my friend: desperately sad! I don't know that there's anything you can do, other than subtly let her know what you think would look good on her, but if she ain't buyin', then as another poster said, you'll just have to obtain your satisfactions elsewhere.

Sorry I can't help. I haven't progressed to being able to talk to ANYONE about my fetish, let alone telling a GF that I would be massively turned on if she wore a huge, masculine watch loose on her tiny wrist. Luckily, there's WG.net!

[ts3033]

Toony I really think you have to wait a little while and then approach the subject futher down the line in your relationship. Buying her a watch as a gift I think would confuse her as shes made it pretty clear shes not interested in wearing one.

My girlfriend bought herself a watch about a year into our relationship and wore if for a while which was great, then inevitably she stopped wearing it. She was already aware of a bigger (and weirder) fetish that I had which she was not overly keen to partake in. Usually on special occasions (Birthdays, Anniversaries, Valentines etc) she asks for any requests on what to wear, and recently Ive asked to her to wear her old watch! Compared to my other fetish this seems much more normal and she always grants my request. She thinks its slightly odd but I think is also glad that (in her own words) its 'so easy'. The next step for me is for her to take some initiative and wear it without me asking beforehand as a surprise, but at the moment its always something I have to ask for.

My advice is to wait until your relationship grows and I'm sure one day she'll turn round to you and want to do stuff for you that you particularly enjoy at which point you could bring it up then.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck Buddy!

[Skylark]

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[toony]

Well I got her to try it, which is a start I guess. It's quite a daft story.

Basically she left the house early, and I had to pick her up. I'd left my phone at work though and had no way of telling the time, but I checked her watch and was on time. When picking her up I mentioned the watch and she laughed, saying that she didn't even know about it.

After work I retraced my steps and took the watch out, to which she was like "oh, I need to find someone who will want it". I then put it on her wrist and said that I just wanted to see what she looked like wearing a watch, but it was all very light hearted and she didn't seem to mind at all. Despite this, she took it off after about ten seconds even though I complimented her wearing it. She said she had an idea of who to give it to because in her words she "won't use the thing" which is disappointing.

Regardless, she's kept it out the jewelery box and on her bedside table, and she's since gone home for a week, so at some point she'll have to at least do something with the watch either to move it or even use it!

Just a shame, at least I got her to wear it though. I definitely don't want to force the issue but with it being like the third or fourth conversation (however fleeting) about the watch with her, I feel like if I was open about my fetish it would seem weirder now. I mean I have confidence if I approached it the right way she'd have no problem with it, it's just finding that way!

[toony]

Well I'm happy to say that I finally asked her today, and she said she was okay wearing a watch! I can buy whatever I want for her.

My budget isn't great, but I was thinking of a large metal and a large strap watch, but I'm just so relieved she said yes!